So, Pooh Bear is still breastfeeding at almost 16 months and I think we are going to try for the golden two year mark. I say ‘golden’ since it is at least the age at which the World Health Organisation says you should aim to breastfeed to in the western world.
I have been wondering if we should be offering him more alternative drinks to my milk in a bid to encourage self-weaning. He has water and juice throughout the day like his older brother and he has the very, very occasional couple of ounces of cow’s milk every now and then. He rarely feeds in public as he’s too busy bombing around to snuggle up to Mummy but he does have a good feed at any support groups I attend. I think this is because of the ‘Corrie Effect’ as I call it. What, you’ve never heard of the ‘Corrie Effect’?
Cor-rie Eff-ect 1. When the phrase “I’ll make a brew” is uttered on Coronation Street thus making the viewer crave a cup of the good stuff themselves.
They’re always catching me with that and babies it seems are the same. They see one breastfeeding and they all have to do it!
I have been feeling more and more nervous about having to feed him outside of the safety of the groups and our home in case we attract negative comments in public. I’m not sure how I would react and I know it would upset and anger me if anything out of turn was said. It would be one of those infuriating moments where you just sit there quiet and gobsmacked then think of a witty retort 3 hours later and forever play it over in your head torturing yourself.
Anyway, the point of this post was to say that I had two absolutely, genuinely lovely comments about me continuing to feed Pooh Bear. Where all around you, breastfeeding is not seen as the normal way to feed your baby and god forbid you feed them much longer than six months, it was a real confidence boost and has spurred me on to continue as long as Pooh Bear wants.
We HAVE to keep reminding ourselves that they are only small for such a short time and it is no big sacrifice to keep going a bit longer. There is always the risk of attracting negative comments but that is true of so many parenting issues. And anyone who says Mums are selfish for continued breastfeeding really have NO clue what it is like to feed a toddler. Mostly rewarding yet frustrating, tiring and sometimes painful (See my earlier post, Twiddles, Fidgets and a Kick in the Face)
I also feel it is important for people to see Pooh Bear feeding. I would never have thought about feeding a toddler before I had children so by seeing toddlers feed in support groups especially, it is empowering other women to themselves feed as long as they and their children want and not how long society thinks is best.
I’m also pretty stubborn and if someone says I shouldn’t be doing something I want to blow a raspberry in their face and do it anyway. Perhaps not the best reason to continue to breastfeed but since it’s not damaging anyone, and in fact has major health benefits for both of us, why not!
If you are looking for some support with regards to continued breastfeeding there are some lovely bloggers and online support/information groups dishing out confidence and support in spades.
If you think breastfeeding ONE toddler is a challenge, you MUST pop over to Twinkle Mummy who is enjoying the trials and tribulations of feeding her twin boys Spud & Sprout
Circus Queen - Breastfeeding Beyond One is Not Just for Mum
Plus 2.4 - When Should Extended Breastfeeding End?
My Mummy’s Pennies - Breastfeeding, a Mother’s Choice
Breastfeeding in England – The Highs and Lows of Tandem Nursing
- A Kickboxer, An Air Stewardess, A Speech Therapist and A Wannabe Playboy Bunny! (lifeloveandlivingwithboys.wordpress.com)
- The Key to Breastfeeding Success (lifeloveandlivingwithboys.wordpress.com)